I was recently reading the definition of bullying (found below). I’ll let you guys catch up. Please read.
Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others.
I immediately thought of myself, my friends and fellow goal setters. What if we replace that last word “others” and replace it with “ourself”?
Meaning the people I hang around we bully ourselves. You ask how is this possible?
When I set a goal and write it on paper sometimes I find myself whining:
- I can’t do this diet
- This workout is too hard
- Well no one else has done it may as well quit
- Everyone one else smokes & drinks and they are good
- Well he’s successful because he has always been good
I simply go into the bathroom face myself in the mirror and say shut up. I turn into a bully. Yes, I bully myself. I tell myself:
- You set this goal
- You want this
- No one said it was easy
- Roll up your sleeves
- Quit crying & shut your mouth
- The expert at anything was once a beginner
I remember reading an article written by a psychologist regarding “The Rubber Band” technique. Where a person wears a rubber band around there wrist. They wore this to assist them in breaking a habit. Whether it was using profanity, laziness, negative thoughts or whatever. They would give themselves a quick pop on the wrist to remind them. Soon one would learn to avoid the pain, they would stop doing the behavior.
So to all my friends and business partners keep bullying yourselves to reach your goals. Not others but yourself! If others can set goals and achieve them so can you!
With God you can do everything but fail!